No apology necessary, really? If you ever have to say that statement then an apology is necessary 80% of the time. An apology is for both parties involved. To ask for forgiveness is to admit your wrong doing and humble yourself becoming vulnerable to the other person. To hear an apology is acknowledgement that someone did wrong you and wants your forgiveness. Forgiveness is one of the best ways to heal. However, some wounds run so deep that those words cannot begin to penetrate the pain but still they should be spoken.
“He broke my toy mom!” My child cried to me.
“I said I was sorry mom. I really did not mean to. It was an accident.”
“You have to accept his apology.” I said.
“I know I do but I am just not ready yet to forgive him” was his reply.
“Don’t take too long or you will form a grudge and that is not healthy for either one of you.”
I am constantly trying to teach my children to apologize and to forgive. They hear me apologize to my husband even when I really don’t want to do it. They hear me apologize to them as well.
We are human and as such we are flawed and will make mistakes as well as poor choices. Knowing that fact should make it easier to do both apologize and forgive.
Is there anyone you need to apologize to or accept an apology from right now?