Holy Matrimony is the sacrament of Marriage in the Catholic Church. In a culture saturated with sex, lust and cheating it is fitting that the divorce rate is 50%. I found a great video by Father Robert Barron about the sacrament of Marriage and showed it to my students. He talks about the fact that there should not be just two people in the marriage but also a transcendent third. He explained that in any relationship there must be a love of more than just one another to connect the two people. The same is true in a marriage. He says it is not enough to love one another. We must find our purpose, love God and then find another person who loves God as well and come together in faith and love for one another and God.
For many people in our culture this idea is just crazy but then again so is living selflessly and giving yourself completely to God and your mate. The marriages that last have mutual self giving and typically a love of God or faith together. I thank God that I found a man that shares my values and loves God as much as I do. We chose to be married in the Catholic Church to take those vows in front of God, our family and our friends, vowing to love each other in sickness and health, for richer or poorer, forsaking all others, honoring each other until death do we part. Those vows were between us but we made them in the presence of God. God is the one who blesses our marriage, lifts us when we fall, carries us when its too difficult to go on, comforts us in our grief and gives us guidance in our every day lives. Our goal as spouses is to be Christ to the other dying to ourselves to live for the other – a very counter cultural idea indeed.